Thanks to the Internet, we have thousands of motivational phrases, images, and videos scattered on virtually every website out there like no pain no gain. If you want to feel better about yourself or just get something accomplished, all it takes is a quick Google search and you’re on your way. But it’s not always easy to make those decisions. Sometimes it’s not just about jumping out of bed and getting to work on something awesome, it’s about pushing through the pain to get to the good stuff.
Getting Through the Tough Stuff – No Pain No Gain
I had no clue what I wanted to do with my life until relatively recently. I’m 37, so saying that puts me in a place where I can say with confidence that my 20s were more an experiment in what not to do, and about learning who I was. I started a custom car business in 1999, which soon imploded and left me to deliver pizzas for the next few years. These were not good times. However, there was one positive experience that blossomed out of that moment. I started writing.
There’s no need to get into the minutia of the whole thing, but long story short, I started to write freelance for custom car publications. One begat two, then three and the next thing I knew, I was a freelancer. I still had my job — which was working for a fleet management company at that point — but every weekend and weeknight I was cranking away on the keyboard, trying to earn some scratch. In 2009, with a pregnant wife, a mountain of debt and an uncertain future, I struck out on my own and started writing full time. I started a business, did my thing, and 30 days after the day I started, my wife was laid off. Now I was the sole earner for the family, and our first son was just a few months away.
Even as a writer, it’s hard for me to put into words the pain that I felt at that moment. I thought I was ruining this unborn child’s future. I was going to fail my wife. The house would surely have to be foreclosed on, and we were going to be out on the street for sure. I was a failure, just 30 days into this experiment.
Now I could turn this into a story about how I made it up out of that hole, succeeded and so on, but that’s not really what happened. Yes, I did end up doing OK along the way, and sure, we’re in a better position today than we were back then. But in the process, there was a lot of pain. Months and months of tough decisions, nail biting and hard calls. There were a lot of moments when I felt like it just wasn’t worth the struggle, but no pain no gain right?
If you find yourself in one of these moments, you have to remember that this pain is temporary. Yes, it sucks. Things look bad, and they could get even worse before they get better. But understand that they will get better. Things change. The economy shifts. Jobs open up. Closed doors mean new opportunities. It’s all about thinking outside the box and finding another option, because there is always another option.
No pain no gain.